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Last week we helped you determine your child’s sensory profile, or individual differences (“I”). We need to keep these differences in mind in every step of setting up a DIR/Floortime program for your child and especially in implementing it.

The next step in implementing a program for your child will involve using the DIR/Floortime checklist to determine where your child is developmentally (“D”). This will help you target your interactions with your child within your warm, safe, and nurturing relationship (“R”).

Recall that neurotypical children acquire these functional emotional developmental capacities from birth through to age 4 or 5, but in children with developmental differences they happen at a much slower rate and usually much later.

Take a look at the basic checklist by clicking the link in the green box and it should give you a general idea of what your child is capable of, at least for some of the time. Children with developmental differences can have some capacities in many of the stages but not all of the time, so there are gaps in development that we aim to fill in.

Click here to see the Functional Emotional Developmental Capacities basic chart

Look at the first functional emotional developmental capacity (FEDC). We want to see your child having shared attention with you and being regulated. In order to do this, we need to know in what environment the child is most comfortable.

If certain sensations are unpleasant for your child, they will find it too difficult to share attention with you because they will be distracted and won’t be able to regulate their emotions. They will seem to be unavailable to us because they are struggling to process sensory input.

This stage is often the greatest challenge for parents. However, Dr. Greenspan never met a child they couldn’t engage in some way. You should know best how to comfort your child and avoid what sets them off. If you don’t, you need to keep searching, as described in detail a few weeks ago.

Shared attention and regulation is the cornerstone of working with a child in the DIR model. It is very challenging to move a child up the developmental ladder if they are finding it too challenging to have shared attention with us and remain regulated.

This does not mean that if your child is always having meltdowns, you cannot ever work on higher capacities. It just means that you need to work on higher capacities only in the moments when your child is available for shared attention and regulated.

So for many of us, the bulk of time with our children will be finding ways to help them keep shared attention with us and help them feel regulated. For now let’s just note how often you get moments of shared attention with your child and how often you notice that your child seems to feel regulated.

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I want to stress how important FEDC 1 is in DIR/Floortime. Constrictions at this first capacity will follow children with developmental differences throughout their school years and will make it very difficult for them to be comfortable in a school setting and other social settings which are not set up to their individual profiles.

It should be the cornerstone of all you do with your child at home and the most important factor raised with your child’s school so they can also have the tools to help your child each day.

Please don’t let this overwhelm you, but rather empower you. Once you learn how to help your child with their regulation, you will gain confidence and it will become a routine in your life.

The photo for today’s blog is of our son with one of his therapists who chose to have him sit on a swing.

This keeps him regulated enough to get the shared attention she requires to push him up the developmental ladder. This gives him the vestibular input his body is craving in order to feel at ease so he can focus on other things.

In the coming weeks, we’ll show you many examples of how to help your child stay regulated. The key here is to keep in mind that this is always your main goal in DIR/Floortime.

See the photo of our son playing in the sand. He seems very at ease and regulated, however it would appear he’d remain just as happy playing if anyone were with him or not. 

Rather, we want to child to be in a shared world where he would be interacting with us to share what he’s experiencing while he’s regulated.

Many parents leave their child playing on their own immersed in an activity not realizing that they are missing out on fostering rich interactions.

But with developmental differences, you can never spend too much time interacting with your child, and in fact they require this to develop their capacities for relating and communicating with others.

As Dr. Gil Tippy likes to say, we want to invite them into our world and say “Hey! Come join us! It’s fun here!” without taking no for an answer. By challenging them playfully in this way, we help them build their capacities to relate and communicate with us that which they are so eager to share.

Boy playing in sand

Dr. Greenspan suggests getting a neighbourhood teenager or other family members to play with your child if you are busy with chores or dinner.

Every minute you spend with your child is valuable time in helping them to develop these core developmental capacities, rather than letting them play alone for long stretches of time. 

This does not mean that if your child is enjoying calming sensory-based play like our son in the sand picture that you should dysregulate them if they seem distressed by your attempts to interact. Instead, find a respectful, playful and enjoyable way to join them in what they are doing.

We won’t get into details of the other functional emotional developmental capacities until we begin to talk about what to do in Floortime. But for now you can make note of what capacities you see your child exhibiting in each stage from the checklist because that will be important going forward.

In the coming weeks we’ll talk about actually doing Floortime. We’ll start next week by using the information about individual differences and shared attention & self-regulation to start a Floortime session.

Until next week, here’s to affecting autism through play!

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