November 23, 2020

Continuing with our alternative schedule due to the ICDL DIR/Floortime Conference, we met at 3:00 PM Eastern today. DIR-Expert Training Leader Bridget Palmer joined us.

A parent from Atlanta joined so we mentioned Floortime Atlanta and the podcasts I did with Floortimers who work there:

Another parent asked about Floortime resources in Toronto public schools, which I didn’t know about but I did share that my son went to Yes I Can! nursery school which was very attentive and that Ellen Yack & Associates is a great Occupational Therapy services provider.

A parent shared that their child has now been engaging with them for first time a lot more purposefully as the parent comes into a more natural way of being and that DIR/Floortime parent coaching has really helped. Another caregiver shared that the DIR Home Program has really been great. 

Another parent found Dr. Stanley Greenspan’s web radio shows and has found them extremely valuable.

We discussed the ICDL virtual conference and how much we are enjoying it, including Emile Gouws’ presentation this morning about his life as an autistic who was non speaking until age 13.

We also discussed how great it is to see everyone at the conference so genuine and caring and dedicated to helping others. We also discussed how important it is to find the therapist you are comfortable with and how deciding on Floortime as your approach opens up that world. Then you can choose from within that world by seeing my podcasts, for instance, to see which Floortimers resonate with you the most, for instance.

The usual resources to check out:

You can show your support for Affect Autism through Patreon. Becoming a member allows you to see my Floortime videos and affords you special privileges to come. You can now submit questions for my upcoming podcasts as a Patron.

Thank you for your attendance! If you have any questions about the notes or suggestions for next time, feel free to email me! Hope to see you next Monday at our temporary time of 12 noon Eastern Standard Time.

November 16, 2020

Continuing with our alternative schedule due to the ICDL DIR/Floortime Conference, we met at 12:00 noon Eastern today. I reminded caregivers about the conference, where you can watch presentations online throughout the month, including some recordings of ones you missed and their hand-outs where available, although it is encouraged to attend live, as per ICDL’s mandate of being interactive!

We began by discussing how we’re enjoying the ICDL virtual conference so far, which most of the attendees have been participating in. This lead us to a conversation about if our children are interacting with strangers. Some do, some don’t, and for some it depends on the situation.

I shared some of the great videos and panels from the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network (ASAN) Gala from the weekend and highly recommended that people check out the short film Loop by Pixar, the documentary Intelligent Lives, and the “Ask a Non-Autistic” panel. Absolutely fabulous!

A parent asked about the POND research day. This is an annual event in Toronto for those families who are a part of a study on autism. They present research all day. I’m not sure if you can watch if you are not a part of the study. It’s usually quite scientific. Another Toronto parent shared that the December Autism Summit is open to the public.

One caregiver followed up with a past celebration about the child being toilet trained. We had discussed possible regression in the future and to not get discouraged. Today the caregiver shared that there have been a few regressions and wondered if recording data around when each incident happened would be helpful: namely, what was the environment when the accident happened. We agreed it would be helpful, especially if the child is overwhelmed by sensory input and thus loses control of their bowels.

A caregiver shared that ABA was great for toilet training their child and another parent shared this link to a FREE ABA toilet training workshop coming up in February of next year.

The usual resources to check out:

You can show your support for Affect Autism through Patreon. Becoming a member allows you to see my Floortime videos and affords you special privileges to come. You can now submit questions for my upcoming podcasts as a Patron.

Thank you for your attendance! If you have any questions about the notes or suggestions for next time, feel free to email me! Hope to see you next Monday at our temporary time of 12 noon Eastern Standard Time.

November 9, 2020

Continuing with our alternative schedule due to the ICDL DIR/Floortime Conference, we met at 3pm Eastern today. I reminded caregivers about the conference, where you can watch presentations online throughout the month, including some recordings of ones you missed where available, although it is encouraged to attend live, as per ICDL’s mandate of being interactive! 

One of the caregivers is strongly considering homeschooling because since school started up again after the shut down, the child’s behavioural outbursts are returning. The parent is overwhelmed about how to go about this. We discussed focusing on those first three early social-emotional capacities of just being able to have fun together with engagement and reciprocity. This parent very much appreciated Joleen Fernald‘s presentation on AAC devices at the ICDL conference–especially the reminder that it takes a good year for neurotypical children to begin speaking from the first word, so we can’t expect our children to learn to communicate on an AAC device immediately.

We discussed considering DIR/Floortime home coaching weekly or biweekly in which the parent video tapes themselves playing with their child and goes over the videos with a coach who can guide the Floortime along until the parent feels comfortable. I had a number of suggested podcasts that the parent would find very helpful:

Three other resources that might help are Dr. Stanley Greenspan’s Web Radio Shows, the P.L.A.Y. Project’s introductory course which is currently being offered for free, and the Profectum Parent Toolbox.

I also reminded parents to attend the 2nd presenting of both mine and Bridget Palmer’s ICDL presentations in the coming days at the ICDL DIR/Floortime Conference which show video examples of Floortime and will really help solidify understanding of the DIR Model and its application. The conference is only $49 for parents and there are multiple presentations per day for the rest of the month. Highly recommended!

We also talked about the self-reflection piece and how important it is to review videos of you and your child to become more aware of how you can support your child. 

One caregiver brought up a great presentation about DIR vs. ABA by researcher Devin Casenhiser.

The usual resources to check out:

You can show your support for Affect Autism through Patreon. Becoming a member allows you to see my Floortime videos and affords you special privileges to come. You can now submit questions for my upcoming podcasts as a Patron.

Thank you for your attendance! If you have any questions about the notes or suggestions for next time, feel free to email me! Hope to see you next Monday at our temporary time of 12 noon Eastern Standard Time.

November 2, 2020

Today we had a later start time, following Dr. Gil Tippy‘s mind-blowing opening presentation of the 24th ICDL DIR/Floortime Conference. If you missed it, he will present the same talk again later this month on the 19th at 8pm E.S.T. Please consider signing up to hear any or all of the numerous presentations that began today and run throughout the month of November. Can any top Dr. Tippy’s? We will see…

I let everyone know I have a new podcast up with Bridget Palmer about parent support groups. I also let everyone know about an upcoming FREE webinar from Maude Le Roux’s Academy on Financial Planning for Special Needs. I said it’s likely only relevant for Americans and that there are many similar services in Ontario and if anyone needs me to point them in that direction, check out Partners for Planning.

A participant asked about combining ABA and DIR approaches. One parent mentioned that perhaps ABA could lead to greater success for toilet training, for instance. But that parent’s child also told them that ABA made them feel like a dog because they just had to follow a response whereas Floortime encourages the child to be involved with the idea of how to address issues and that Floortime encourages more input from the child and involves more trust and working together–and that that trust between them has been hurt because of ABA.

I gave my thoughts about it:

  1. Self-advocates across the board seem to be opposed to ABA although Temple Grandin does recommend ABA. It really does boil down to having a good therapist in many cases. The roots of ABA are truly awful but most ABA today doesn’t operate in the way it was designed because it wouldn’t be ethical.
  2. Dr. Tippy has a 5-part ABA Detox series on YouTube (although part 1 seems to be missing); he points out that ABA doesn’t inspire a child to think, only to follow instructions. Here are a couple more videos where he discusses ABA.
  3. Dr. Greenspan talked about the components of the DIR/Floortime practice: Floortime, unstructured and structured sessions where the structured were more like ABA, but we always follow the child’s lead–their emotional interest. Dr. Joshua Feder who will be speaking at ICDL’s conference as well has worked with ABA colleagues trying to incorporate ABA with DIR in order to not keep divisions.
  4. ABA is really targeting children who are beyond the first three functional emotional developmental capacities so not even appropriate for young children.

We talked about DIR being a strengths-based approach and how we can find the strengths in each approach and what works well for each family. We all want the best for our child and are all doing our best. It just hurts everyone involved if we get into the us versus them battle. Bridget Palmer suggested that we know what the IMPLEMENTATION of the DIR or ABA program will look like. Is that therapist connected to your child or not? If they want to condition your child to condition behaviours, that would be a red flag for her. Or is the therapist saying, “How can we do this together?

She also pointed out that ABA therapists may have ZERO training in development. They only learn operant conditioning. That doesn’t mean that some ABA therapists haven’t also trained in development. But also beware that speech/communication does NOT develop by operant conditioning. Pre-verbal communication is essential.

Self advocate Ido Kedar’s website is a great one to look at, Bridget suggested, as he found ABA was not at all helpful for him.

Like Eunice Lee said, we need to respect other professionals and listen to parents. Please also see the discussion with Dr. Kathy Platzman about parent guilt and how we do what we can with what we know at the time.

The usual resources to check out:

You can show your support for Affect Autism through Patreon. Becoming a member allows you to see my Floortime videos and affords you special privileges to come. You can now submit questions for my upcoming podcasts as a Patron. 

Thank you for your attendance, and hope to see you next Monday, again at our temporary time of 3:00pm Eastern Standard Time.

October 26, 2020

We had DIR Expert Training Leader Bridget Palmer join us again in facilitating today’s session.

We first spoke about the developmental optometrist (versus an opthamologist) and how an occupational therapist can guide you to one. Their role is to determine how your child sees and uses their eyes. We go to Dr. Angela Peddle in the Toronto area (you will see her presenting in the YouTube link on that website).

Bridget added that a few adult autistics have written books and shared experiences about how their vision works:

Bridget says you can see if your child moves things fast/slow by their eyes or puts things in different places. Let’s be the experts on what our children do, how they behave around vision and what you think they’re seeing and why you think they’re doing things. 

She also noted how the visual system and vestibular system (inner ear) are paired (like when you see a car moving beside you and feel like you’re moving when you’re in park). Podcasts I’ve done with Maude Le Roux and Virginia Spielman refer to these systems.

A couple of parents asked what to do and how to join in when their children spin or look out of the corner of their eyes. Bridget suggested joining them and seeing what it feels like to you to understand what they’re getting out of it.

We also talked about how important it is to advocate for our children if professionals are encouraging us to stop or discourage these behaviours in our children. Many adult autistics describe these experiences as highly pleasurable and regulating and the distress they felt when people tried to stop it in them. 

Another parent expressed concerns about a pre-teen who is developmentally younger, whom they find challenging to monitor and keep safe, including trying to keep them doing online schooling during the pandemic or keeping their attention. I suggested that you can’t expect a 12-year-old who is developmentally 5 or 6 to be like a 12-year old. We have to review the functional emotional developmental capacities and meet them where they are developmentally. Go through that FEDC basic checklist that’s in that last link and determine your child’s developmental capacities then just continue to focus on those earliest capacities until they are robust! Check out the Stumbling blocks posts to focus on each capacity. (At the bottom of that post you can go to the next post through all 6 early developmental capacities). Also never forget to spend more time being, not doing! Use lots of affect and comment rather than asking questions or giving instructions or directions. 

The usual resources to check out:

You can show your support for Affect Autism through Patreon. You can now submit questions for my upcoming podcasts as a Patron. The upcoming podcast schedule is listed there.

October 19, 2020

Today we celebrations, potty training readiness, Dr. Robert Naseef, the upcoming ICDL conference, and I provided reminders of some other resources.

A caregiver mentioned how happy they were to have their spouse back after grandmother had left and they were alone with their child for a number of days. We discussed how some of our kids really demand our attention so often that we can’t even go to the bathroom or shower in private. They mentioned that we have to take care of ourselves too because we are in this for the long haul: years. We shared some stories. I joked that people erroneously say that autistic kids aren’t social. They are so social! They want us to play with them and be with them all the time!

A caregiver mentioned how much they enjoyed my podcast with Dr. Robert Naseef. I mentioned I’m recording another podcast with him in a couple weeks that will be published in November and if anyone has questions for me to ask him, just let me know next Monday (or email me). I mentioned that he recently did a fabulous webinar with this group, although I don’t see a recording of it anywhere on their website.

I pointed out some great resources:

The usual resources to check out:

You can show your support for Affect Autism through Patreon. You can now submit questions for my upcoming podcasts as a Patron. The upcoming podcast schedule is listed there.

October 15, 2020

Today we discussed advocacy, IEPs, and engaging children in higher capacities!

A caregiver asked about how to get DIR/Floortime funded in their province of Quebec. I discussed the process I did to try in Ontario:

  • We were in contact with people who got DIR/Floortime put in the government policy report in British Columbia who said just promote what DIR/Floortime does (rather than bash ABA)
  • Started autismDATA.org website where I put out bulletins on a regular basis (and am way overdue for another) about all that’s happening in the DIR world (research, education, practice, etc.)
  • I made a list of anyone and everyone in Ontario who would have anything to do with autism (hospitals, clinics, government policy makers, MP, MPP, SLP provincial organization, O.T. board, pediatricians, university researchers, etc.) and emailed them about autismDATA.org with notification of the first bulletin and asked them if they want to subscribe; many did
  • Meanwhile, I found out who to contact working on the autism policy and emailed them as well about why they should include DIR/Floortime in their autism strategy and kept them in the loop everytime I put out a new bulletin
  • Cindy Harrison is a DIR expert who got the P.L.A.Y. Project included in Ontario’s new autism program and is on the advisory panel to the government in Ontario about autism strategy
  • Met regularly with Jehan Shehata-Aboubakr about how to advocate and sent emails to every DIR/Floortime ICDL trained practitioner in Ontario and asked them to send a message to their MPP (Member of Provincial Parliament)
  • Jehan and I sent emails to the SLP and OT boards urging them to comment on Ontario’s autism policy, imploring them to include PARENT CHOICE (that includes developmental approaches) rather than just a behavioural strategy
  • We have a Canadian Advocacy mail list serve through ICDL and a general advocacy one, as well (plus one for research) so we were in touch with those advocating across Canada and the U.S. to get ideas

We talked about the above points being things parents who want to support the cause can help with going forward!

Next we talked about our goals for Individualized Education Plans (IEP). I emphasized forming a good Relationship with the school team so they are more willing to comply with your requests. Bridget Palmer, DIR Expert who joined us also added that parents need to describe the specific Floortime strategies that they want to be using, and have them written into their plan such as points like you want them to pause so your child expresses themselves. You get to have this written into your education plan and it must be followed because it’s a legal document. Parents and grandparents are the most important people on the team! Bridget and I committed to doing a podcast about exact phrases parents can include in their children’s IEPs to incorporate DIR goals, to follow-up from the podcast with Jackie Bartell.

A parent wondered what to do with a child who is verbal and can carry a conversation but who gets frustrated easily and can tune out or tantrum. I brought up examples that Dr. Tippy has brought up in presentations I’ve seen where sometimes to get the ‘gleam in the eye’ at FEDC 2, you need to come in at a higher level (4 or 5) where you talk about a subject very dear to the child and challenge them on why they feel the way they do about it, while being empathetic and supportive and encouraging, using commenting “Oh that’s really interesting that you think that. But why do you think that it’s important to do ___?” and “Oh that’s a great idea. You’re really smart to think about that.

Bridget suggested looking at ICDL’s website and reviewing the descriptions of the Functional Emotional Developmental Capacities. She said that you’re most important relationship with your child, so they practice their capacities with you! Our kids need our support; it’s hard work, so you as parents need a support system to do it over and over. Take advantage of this support group!

I also suggested reviewing my podcasts with Dr. Tippy who really is great about stressing why we need to get our children to think versus asking them questions about facts:

I mentioned that, like Jake Greenspan told me, some kids do have capacities at all six of the early levels, but their ‘tree trunk’ is narrow. We want to widen it across more situations and with more people.

Maude Le Roux has a course coming up about teenagers that might interest some of you. If you use the code daria30 you can get $30 off!

A few resources to check out:

You can show your support for Affect Autism through Patreon. You can now submit questions for my upcoming podcasts as a Patron. The upcoming podcast schedule is listed there.

October 4, 2020

We had a wonderful “Family and Relationships” theme today.

It started when a parent asked our thoughts on being around family without school and therapy services versus being away from family but getting therapy. My thoughts were that it depends on how accepting, loving and warm the family is versus having a stressful family environment. If the family is supportive, I’d choose that over ABA therapy any day, any day, any day. I mentioned Dr. Gordon Neufeld’s thoughts on how you don’t need socialization with peers for development and how those warm, hierarchical family attachments or Relationships in the DIR Model, are what is needed and peers can never provide unconditional love and support that

Our guest DIR Expert Bridget Palmer suggested asking yourself, “What are the goals for my child?” Is it a DIR/Floortime approach to create safe and loving relationships that promote developmental capacities or would there be therapists or therapies you would miss? If the latter, can they do tele-sessions remotely? What does your gut say? What are you leaning towards? Listen to that emotion that’s telling you what your priorities are. She also pointed us to the Profectum parent toolbox.

I also referred the fathers in our group to Psychologist Dr. Robert Naseef’s Dads support group and announced my upcoming podcast with him in early November.

Another parent asked how to foster a smile out of their child when dropping them off at the school bus stop because they can get the smiles other times, but despite efforts of being silly and fun, the child is not responding. Bridget asked when do they get that smile at home? The parent responded that the child loves tickles. The parent then also shared that yesterday the child came and sat next to them then tried to sit on the parent’s lap. This was a new step forward.

This had Bridget and I feeling warm fuzzies because it’s an indication that the Relationship between this parent and child is solidifying and the child is feeling safe and warm around this parent. This is a celebration! Bridget also pointed out that we saw the joy on the parent’s face while describing that this happened and about the tickles. So to continue on this path, Bridget suggested to this parent that they continue to bring the joy and silliness to the bus stop using anticipation and I offered, creating a fun ritual for the child to look forward to each day.

I brought in the concept of culture and rituals that psychologist Dr. Gordon Neufeld talks about. Many parents think they need to rush their children away and not think about it to make it easier, but in fact, the opposite fosters attachment–have your children hold on to you. You can put notes in their lunch when apart, a keepsake they can hold on to during the day, and Bridget suggested a laminated photograph on a binder ring attached to their bag.

This made me think of creating a family photo album for the parent who asked the first question. Creating the village through photos for your child can keep you connected to extended family while apart. It was a beautiful feeling discussion!

A few resources to check out:

You can show your support for Affect Autism through Patreon. You can now submit questions for my upcoming podcasts as a Patron. The upcoming podcast schedule is listed there.

***A reminder that there will be no support group next Monday due to Canadian Thanksgiving. INSTEAD WE WILL TRY NEXT THURSDAY AT 2PM EASTERN October 15th.***

September 28, 2020

Today we started with celebrations. One parent’s partner said that affect really works with their child! Woo hoo! Another parent has an appointment coming up next month with a developmental pediatrician regarding a diagnosis, thinking it would take a year! Woo hoo!

This parent expressed concern about the diagnosis saying that the distress is the uncertainty. Another parent said regardless, DIR is the right path–for any child, so they’re on the right path! Another parent pointed out that some parents can’t wait to get the diagnosis just to get access to services. I suggested the parent might benefit from this podcast with psychologist Robert Naseef.

A parent celebrated that their child is two grades above grade level in reading, but expresses worry about being worse in math. We talked about celebrating our strengths and the progress the child made from “feeling stupid” only a few years ago.

Another parent inquired about stimming. The parent’s child recites scripts from a favourite video so the parents stopped screen time. I mentioned the Repetition podcast and how our children will need to repeat processes before they move on. It may be a concern of ours when our children script or ‘stim’ but it’s not our child’s. Our child is giving us a window into what interests them.

Our DIR expert training leader Bridget Palmer joined us again as well and offered that this is the child’s sensory emotional experience that is exciting and meaningful to them. We can use this interest to connect. She brought up Dr. Barry Prizant’s Uniquely Human. You can even use this interest to co-regulate when the child is upset.

By focusing on their strengths and passions, you can do any number of activities: colouring books or reading books about this interest, playing with toys around this interest, starting conversations about preferences around this interest, describing colours of their preferences, what you like or dislike about the interests, etc. You can use this interest to connect with other children too and introduce your child as having this interest when having playdates or in school. 

Bridget said that Dr. Greenspan said that when our children stim, they are telling us what they want and the content of his mind, which we need to know. It’s how you share an emotional experience with your child.

What about the screen time? The child liked the videos of this special interest. We discussed limit setting and co-regulating. We all agreed that moderation is best. However, our children often have no concept of time and regardless of how long they have on their screen, they are inconsolable when we take it away.

I introduced Dr. Gordon Neufeld‘s concept of inviting the inevitable rather than avoiding distress. We say things like, “I’m going to turn off your screen in a minute. You’re not going to like it. You will probably scream and cry, but screen time is all done.” (Dr. Neufeld says being the ‘agent of futility’ while Dr. Greenspan called it having ‘rock solid resolve’). Then we empathize with them (Dr. Neufeld called this being the ‘angel of comfort’ while Dr. Greenspan described warmth and empathy).

We say things like, “Oh your show is ending. You really love it. This is hard.” When they get upset, they are letting us know their emotional state, and this is important!

Another parent brought up that their child wants a new iPhone to connect with one parent who works out of town. The other parent says no, the child says shut up and gets angry! Again, we want to use co-regulation. Bridget points out the celebrations: the child wants to connect with the parent who is away and did their homework then came to the other parent with logic. The parent responded with logic. It’s about the repair, Bridget says. The child might need to go away then come back. She suggested letting the child know you’re proud of what they did, in order to keep them in the moment with you. She also suggested browsing the old Dr. Greenspan webradio shows.

I shared a link of pandemic resources from Dr. Neufeld’s site.

Thank you to those of you who became members of Affect Autism through Patreon. You can now submit questions for my upcoming podcasts as a Patron. The upcoming podcast schedule is listed there. 

Please email me with preferences for the weekly online support besides 1pm Mondays. The options are 10am, 11am, 12 noon, 1pm, or 2pm Eastern time Tues, Wed, or Thursdays on some weeks of the month.

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos (video #11 came out this past weekend), and CEO Jeff’s blog. And on this website, check in with the latest ResourcesProducts (including discounts on ICDL DIR 101 and 201), and the Start Here link.

If there’s anything I missed or if you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to email me at the Contact link above! ‘See’ you again next Monday.

September 21, 2020

We started out meeting saying hello to our new attendees, including a DIR expert training leader who joined as our guest because she runs a parent support group and wanted to experience our group. 

I introduced Affect Autism again for the new folks and reminded everyone out the Donnie Welch Poetry new virtual Open Art Studios on Saturdays. 

I thanked the parents who became members of Affect Autism through Patreon and announced that I will be adding a section where Patrons can ask submit questions for my upcoming podcasts. I asked for suggestions of what bonuses people would like for becoming a Patron for as low as $5/month. I also reviewed the other ways we can advocate (contact your representatives and say we need DIR/Floortime funded!) and support each other.

Our DIR expert training leader Bridget Palmer answered some parent questions. One parent asked how to interact with their child and she asked to give an example of what they do to have fun together. Bridget was pleased to point out that the parent’s example showed building connection, engagement, and reciprocity with the child. 

Another caregiver asked about a non speaking child. They gave examples of how the child points, grabs your hand to reach for snacks, lifts hand towards shelf, etc. Bridget pointed out that this child is communicating with gestures, eye gaze, facial expressions, etc., which comes before words

A parent asked what to do about a child who used to love the bath but now shows incredible fear at even the anticipation of a bath. The parent has tried many strategies including playing in the bathroom and tub without water, seeing parent bathe, putting a tiny bit of water only into the tub, using enticing lights, etc. Bridget suggested joining the child in the feeling of fear: “Oh no, it seems like something’s wrong with the bath.” Wonder with the child by talking about the bath during another time when the child is in a good mood, so the child sees that we understand and hears them. 

Another parent has a home-schooled 13-yr-old in a neurotypical Star Wars club online; he’s doing well but the parent is concerned because he doesn’t like that the kids keep interrupting. Bridget suggested talking to him about group and the experience at a time when they’re both comfortable and to plan together how he can deal with is, such as stepping away from group if upset, etc.

Please email me with preferences for the weekly online support besides 1pm Mondays. The options are 10am, 11am, 12 noon, 1pm, or 2pm Eastern time Tues, Wed, or Thursdays on some weeks of the month.

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog. And on this website, check in with the latest ResourcesProducts (including discounts on ICDL DIR 101 and 201), and the Start Here link.

If there’s anything I missed or if you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to email me at the Contact link above! ‘See’ you again next Monday.

September 14, 2020

We started out meeting a new parent joining us who recently took DIR 202 with Occupational Therapist and DIR Clinic owner Maude Le Roux. We talked about her work a bit.

I shared a flyer from Donnie Welch Poetry about his new virtual Open Art Studios on Saturdays. He saw the podcast on Online Schooling and Services and reached out to me.

A parent in Ontario, Canada asked about getting funding for services. I mentioned that I started AutismDATA.org to advocate for DIR services but I’m not an expert on getting funding. It’s also a challenge with every province in Canada and every state in the U.S.A. having different funding rules. I do know that The P.L.A.Y. Project (trainer Cindy Harrison), O.T. and S.L.P. services are apparently now all funded under the Ontario Autism Program, which is a start.

A parent asked how to best advocate for Floortime for your child? It’s difficult when everything is behaviourally-based. I suggest reviewing these two sources, along with research:

I shared a few resources:

I also gave a heads up about the upcoming virtual ICDL conference in November, where I will be presenting on parent issues.

A parent asked how they can support me in my efforts and advocacy. We broke this down into a few areas to develop going forward:

  • Helping me continue to provide the resources I do:
  • Parents using our own individual strengths to support each other (e.g., one parent can help me with my podcast technical woes because he has expertise in audio broadcasting online) as we are all at different stages. Those starting out with younger children need the most support and may not have extra time nor energy to help. Those further along are willing to give back and offer support.

A parent said that they were very grateful for my tips in helping them connect with their child and that they tend to think of it as one action step to work on at a time. We talked about the types of action step resources we can provide while keeping Floortime about being, not doing, and not making it about ‘instructions’ or ‘checklists’ which is against what Floortime is all about. The ICDL Basic Chart is a start, listing the capacities we work on in Floortime as our children move along developmentally.

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog. And on this website, check in with the latest ResourcesProducts (including discounts on ICDL DIR 101 and 201), and the Start Here link.

If there’s anything I missed or if you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to email me at the Contact link above! ‘See’ you again next Monday.

August 31, 2020

We started out by looking at the ICDL Parents site at the upcoming Mini-Seminar on Dads and DIR which is open to anyone–not just Dads. I also mentioned that more time slots have opened up for free consultations if you have not yet taken advantage of these coaching sessions.

I also pointed out that I have a new podcast up which gives a wonderful description of the early social-emotional Foundational Capacities we are working on with our children. You can review ICDL’s Basic Chart with the capacities HERE.

One parent talked about how their child cries often and they don’t know why. Sometimes it’s when the child wakes up. Other times, it’s more clear: the child cries to have access to the phone or screen time. We reviewed the Polyvagal podcast blog from last week about our children being in fight/flight and the co-regulating blog where I pointed people to watch the Jennifer Kalari video on her C.A.L.M. method in the box on that blog post.

One parent talked about how it’s hard to co-regulate when we ourselves are dysregulated! Here are a few blog posts about our own regulation:

I brought up the example from a blog post of how we had to give our child yucky medicine and he wouldn’t take it and how I had to do trial and error to co-regulate with him until I could get him to take his medicine.

Maude’s Meltdown Recipe can be purchased here (at the bottom) for those interested.

I also suggested looking up blogs of autistic self-advocates or following them on twitter. Some have great insights into why our children have outbursts because they went through them as children:

One of the parents just found a book The Reason I Jump by an autistic boy. Another parent said that the Self-reg.ca site helped a lot.

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog. And on this website, check in with the latest Resources, Products (including discounts on ICDL DIR 101 and 201), and the Start Here link.

If there’s anything I missed or if you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to email me at the Contact link above! 

August 24, 2020

This morning Zoom was down worldwide so I set up a Google Meet for our drop-in. It was fun to try something new! Thanks to everyone who came out!

One parent asked how to get the most out of her online Floortime virtual coaching. First, I suggested being frank with the coaches and say that the weeks seem to be flying by and that you feel like you aren’t getting enough out of it, if that’s how you feel. Next, I said make sure you film yourself with your child every week. I said not to worry about ‘what’s a good video’ because they just need to see how you typically interact with your child.

Another parent said to film what you want to work on and what you want feedback on. I also pointed out a number of posts on my website that could help get you started doing Floortime under the Start Here link. (I also pointed this link for our new participants to get an introduction to the DIR model and Floortime.) I suggested the Guide to Starting DIR/Floortime With Your Child, Adolescent, or Adult and the How to Overcome Obstacles in Floortime sections–especially the Stumbling Blocks blog posts. Also, I suggested the following ones too from the Floortime Techniques section:

We also discussed the latest podcast at length, Polyvagal Theory and Regulating our Bodily State.

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog. And on this website, check in with the latest Resources, Products (including discounts on ICDL DIR 101 and 201), and the Start Here link.

If there’s anything I missed or if you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to email me at the Contact link above! ‘See’ you again next Monday.

August 17, 2020

I decided not to send out the reminder email today in case people were sick of my emails, and since we all know it’s every Monday at 1pm. But when only two people showed up, I quickly sent out the email just after 1pm and a bunch of others came. I’ll resume sending the reminder emails an hour or so in advance! Haha…

Today we had caregivers of the following children:

  • 8 yr old boy
  • 6 yr old girl
  • 3 yr old boy
  • 12 yr old boy
  • 3 yr old girl
  • Preschool boy
  • 5 yr old boy
  • 2 yr old girl

One caregiver had expressed the child’s progress over the past four months and how the parents are so pleased and are really enjoying the interactions with their child. Then this past week, the child has been distressed again. They are frustrated. I tried to put the focus on empathy for the child. If the child is self-harming, they are distressed about something. Let’s try to show the child we care, we want to help them, and do all we can to keep the child safe and content (rather than feel annoyed at their whining or behavioural outbursts). It’s hard to do when the behaviour can get on our nerves or dysregulate us. We have to regroup ourselves and then be there for the child. The child is not being difficult on purpose.

One participant asked how to propose a DIR approach in ABA based classroom for their child? I suggested reviewing the school podcasts/posts I’ve done:

Some caregivers asked about the ‘intensives’ offered by DIR clinics. A Total Approach just outside of Philadelphia and ICDL Livingston both offer intensives where families can bring their child on the spectrum for 2 weeks and receive intensive Floortime sessions including occupational therapy, play, counselling, speech and language, etc. depending on the family’s needs. I suggested watching the Remediation vs. Accommodation podcast with Maude Le Roux (of A Total Approach) and the Floortime Therapy at ICDL podcast to learn about these intensives.

A parent asked how to handle when the child asked strangers to repeat seemingly random numbers or words. I shared my stories of what I did when my son did those things. I tried to bring awareness to what he was asking using the “hmm…” or wondering what that meant or what he was thinking about. Sometimes I would comment, “Oh, you’re thinking about the video game you’re playing! I don’t know if (this person) knows that game…“, etc.

Next, I pointed out that in a podcast I did about scripting, the DIR expert pointed out that there is always a meaning to what our children script. We might know what they are scripting about and can comment on that, or we might not know (or pretend that we don’t) and wonder about it. Also, it’s great for our kids to see how people react to their requests. Some comply, others wonder, and others refuse!

Finally, I pointed out the Theory of Mind podcast where we discussed how kids learn to take another’s perspective and how it is a capacity that develops once our children start to become abstract.

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog. And on this website, check in with the latest Resources, Products (including discounts on ICDL DIR 101 and 201), and the Start Here link.

‘See’ you again next Monday.

August 10, 2020

We had a few new parents on the call today so I walked everyone through this website, where these notes are and the Start Here link. I pointed out this week’s new podcast that discussed that phase we all go through when we first learn about Floortime. 

One caregiver wondered about developmental growth spurts because they noticed such forward changes in the child. Sometimes we see a calming of challenging behaviours when autistic children have fevers. Other times we just notice that our children have developed. It happens to all children! It’s great to take notice and encourage that development by supporting where our children are.

We went over the ICDL Basic Chart to help determine where our children are developmentally.

Someone asked about the P.L.A.Y. Project which we discussed. It is derived from Floortime and applied to children under age 6. It’s helpful for parents new to Floortime to learn the basics of doing Floortime. We talked about how Floortime coaching can help get us on track to be sure we aren’t using prescriptions as a crutch and staying in the moment with our child, as we know our children best.

A parent asked if others wonder if their children’s behaviour is just kids being kids sometimes versus autistic behaviour. I gave an example of this from last night! Our son was protesting bedtime and my husband said, “So he’s just a typical kid protesting bedtime.” Sometimes when we are so focused on supporting our autistic children, we forget that they are just kids like other kids and will be kids. Kids behave how kids behave. It is all part of development. 

The last thing we discussed was about expecting when our children will begin to talk if they are still non speaking. This differs greatly from child to child. A good Floortime speech and language pathologist can rule out or find any biological challenges to speaking. But most importantly, speak comes with development after early communication. We want to focus on preverbal affective signalling.

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog. And on this website, check in with the latest Resources, Products (including discounts on ICDL DIR 101 and 201), and the Start Here link.

‘See’ you again next Monday.

August 3, 2020

We had some good questions today starting with one about ‘heavy work’ or sensory input for a child who benefits from it in order regulate. I pointed caregivers to the Sensory Lifestyle podcast and suggested browsing Fun and Function‘s website for products that could support sensory activities that regulate. Also I shared how providing deep massage upon waking and falling asleep can help our children very much.

A parent asked about Oppositional Defiance Disorder. I referred to Dr. Gordon Neufeld‘s work. He is a developmental clinical psychologist who teaches a developmental approach to parenting and feels that this is not a disorder but merely a part of development for kids to protest what we ask of them. Typically if our children are acting out, the DIR/Floortime approach is to wonder why the behaviour is happening, and it usually has to do with us putting too much of a demand on our child–even if we don’t see it that way. Our children’s sensory systems are different than ours and their behaviour is communication that we must listen to.

We talked about accepting our children as they are and not trying to push our agendas on them. One parent shared that they are in the ‘realization phase’ (I love this term) because they assumed that when their child began speech therapy, they would start talking right away. I shared that it took a good four or more years for me to adjust to my family’s new normal. It is very challenging as well when we feel judged by family members, friends and strangers. We have to focus on what’s best for our child, and that is to meet them where they are at developmentally and respect their individual differences, all while providing that safe relationship for them.

Our final topic of discussion was around setting limits with a child playing video games when a power struggle breaks out when it’s time to end the game. It’s especially important not to use what the child loves against them as this erodes the relationship and trust. Instead we can involve them in creating a schedule or boundaries around what they want to do as discussed in this podcast about food (but the same Floortime principles can apply to other activities). We can also always focus on the next time they get to play the video game instead of stopping the game. We can create an activity of interest around the game after we’re done the game where we show great curiosity and interest in the game, what happened, what we’ll do differently tomorrow in the game, etc. as discussed in this recent podcast to make meaning for the child in other activities. We don’t want to be our child’s enemy, but their supporter. I think this video illustrates this in a fantastic way.

I mentioned a few spots on this website to check out:

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog. ‘See’ you again on Monday!

July 27, 2020

Today we discussed how to handle transitions of going back to school and how we might need to take some extra time to prepare our children. We can talk about what will be different, we can wonder what will be the same and what staff and which friends will be back. We can talk about how it might be scary and how they might prefer to come home, but that it will also be fun to see their friends again. We may need to take a few extra minutes, or more, at drop off co-regulating until they are feeling ready to go in to the school. It might mean hugging them while saying, “I know. I know. It’s scary.” and just letting them cry. And after a bit being soft and gentle discussing how it’s hard and scary, “…but I think you can do it. Are you feeling brave enough yet?

A parent asked about stretching out interactions with a child who is requesting chips or chocolates. I suggested going to the Chocolates section of this blog post. I suggested a number of techniques that depend on where the child is developmentally, such as offering a choice, “Do you want Snickers or Smarties?” and then, “Hmm… How many Smarties should we have?” and then “Hmm… Where should we eat them? At the table or here?” and then counting down as we eat them and taking turns eating them, etc. Anything you can do to keep the gleam in the eye as they anticipate the chocolate while being in a joyful, playful interaction with you to stretch out the interaction will help build those early developmental capacities.

At the beginning of this blog post there is a Jake Greenspan video that discusses doing Floortime with everyday activities such as getting dressed. These are great tips!

A parent asked about their child making meaning around a bouncing ball that is in their story book, during which time Mom bounces on a yoga ball saying “Bounce! Bounce! Bounce!” and handing the parent a cue card with a picture of something the child has made meaning around. It sure sounded to me like the child had made meaning around these words and how the shared experience of bouncing helped the child form meaning around the idea of bouncing, which is now associated with a fun activity of bouncing up and down on a yoga ball with their parent.

A Floortime therapist asked how to support generalization of skills with children who show higher capacities at home with their mother than they can with the therapist, even in the home, or with children who show higher capacities at school than at home. We discussed how in Floortime we always start with moving up the developmental ladder. We have to meet the child where they are at and work up those capacities by joining their current emotional interests.

A parent asked if the Waldorf schools are in line with the DIR model. In my experience, they are developmental approach schools and they use Relationship as the DIR model does to form a sense of safety within which children can thrive. For instance, children stay with the same teacher and classmates throughout grade school and they have symbolic rituals around birthdays, etc. where they will, for instance, light a candle to represent each year of life and talk about significant events from each year. 

A parent talked about her child’s focus on birthdays as being a bit rigid. I talked about the blog post where I described Dr. Greenspan’s description of compulsivity versus impulsivity and how using Floortime can help children be more flexible by working on those back-and-forth interactions.

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog. ‘See’ you again on Monday!

July 20, 2020

Today’s session was filled with concerns about going back to school. Parents wondered whether they should keep their children home or send them to school. There were questions around how safe it would be to send them to school, knowing that things will be so different and that most of our kids won’t be able to wear masks. Parents wondered about e-learning options. Some parents are quite overwhelmed with behavioural challenges at home.

We talked about how in the grand scheme of things, we want to stay safe. Some parents have decided their kids are staying home, others are sending their kids back to school. Even if they miss out on a year of school, it’s not the end of the world. We can use this time to learn and practice Floortime and form good relationships with our children and share joy together. I reminded caregivers to review this podcast: Being vs. Doing.

Other parents expressed concerns around their children overeating and we focused on looking for the ‘why’. I suggested reviewing the Foodtime podcast and creating a meal plan schedule with the child so they can have ownership of what they eat. I also suggested this podcast that discusses some limit setting around food.

We also talked about limit setting with our children and whether we take things away or use a less behavioural approach. I suggested the developmental approach and these blog posts:

I also talked about general developmental approach resources to browse: Janet Lansbury and Gordon Neufeld.

A parent found this resource for explaining Covid-19 to our children.

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog. ‘See’ you again on Monday!

July 13, 2020

Thank you for attending our session today!

I started by sharing a recent blog from A Total Approach which we discussed.

A parent said they’ve been doing the Play Project and Floortime with their child and have seen a lot of progress but now it seems to be steady and the parent is wondering what to do next. They find themselves repeating the same things and want to know what else to do next.

I suggested a few blog/podcasts from this site to explore and we discussed them:

A parent asked, How do I know where my child is developmentally? I provided a few podcast/blog suggestions from this site:

  • Under the Guide to Starting DIR/Floortime With Your Child, Adolescent, or Adult under the Start Here link above, the first 2 links are about finding the sensory profile of your child and how to determine their developmental level where you will see the link in the box to the FEDC Basic Chart which you can go through and complete for your child, remembering that we are always fluctuating between capacities back and forth, up and down depending on our regulation and environment.
  • Also, see the notes from last week where some of those other blog posts and Floortime videos might be helpful.

A parent asked out circles of communication so I referred to this blog post where we talked about the difference between stop-start interactions versus continuous flow interactions, and about the top 4 mistakes parents make to deter continuous flow of interactions.

I also pointed out the importance of staying in the moment and attuning to our child.

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog. ‘See’ you again on Monday!

July 6, 2020

We had a nice session today.

I shared a link about self-regulation strategies from The Inspired Treehouse and mentioned that if you are interested in products, courses, etc. and you purchase via my website, it helps me fund the website.

A parent new to Floortime asked how to structure the day doing Floortime when you have multiple children. Another parent offered that their younger one is starting to mimic Floortime just from watching the parents do it with the sibling. Their little one leads their cousins on how to talk to their autistic sibling, modelling Floortime for their cousins. The parent said to make sure it’s inclusive for all the kids.

I provided a few podcast/blog suggestions from this site to look at that can help:

Another parent has a 12-year-old boy who tends to play the same everyday by rolling a car back and forth, which is calming, but the parent has run out of ideas on how to playfully obstruct and interact. The child also loves bike riding and it is calming for him. They have trouble when asking him to stop playing his video game because he can have an outburst of anger and doesn’t want to stop.

I suggested many podcasts/blogs from my site to address all of these concerns:

I also suggested watching the actual Floortime videos on my site and listen to the feedback I receive from the DIR Expert:

Another parent wondered if taking DIR 101 or 201 from ICDL would be helpful. I said that indeed the courses are helpful and there is a discount for both here to use. But 201 is really designed for practitioners and you have to present a case study with a child who is not your own. You can audit the course but you are also viewing a lot of Floortime videos with others who are learning. I suggested that another way to learn is to make your way through the Start Here link on this site and read through the introduction and watch the intro videos. Then the remainder of the page lists all the blogs, podcasts and videos by category. You can slowly work your way through topics of interest and it will all start to sink in as you get insights on helping your own child.

Another parent described their family’s journey from having Dr. Stanley Greenspan as their doctor when their children were young and how they’ve done Floortime for over a decade now. They have two VERY different kids and both with challenges. It’s important to do individual sessions with each child as well as family activities. They have videos of their kids over the years doing Floortime and have come so far. It gets easier. You have ups and downs. The sensory part is important. Their son’s first words were on a swing, on the trampoline or in the pool and he was a late talker. To this day, they still work on circles of communication around his interests at age 14.

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog and free Q & A! ‘See’ you again on Monday!

June 29, 2020

It was wonderful to see you all today.

We started with a question about homeschooling since the child has been doing so well at home in contrast to being in public school with so many stressors. The caregiver wondered about finding a DIR community to start a group in their area.

They mentioned that ICDL Livingston’s Colette Ryan would support and travel up to coach if they found interested people. I also mentioned Jackie Bartell at ICDL who is a retired special educator and is available to coach. I also suggested reading the Teacher Tom blog, although it is not autism-related. He is a developmental approach preschool teacher and his blogs are always great examples of how to help children thrive through play.

Another parent had some experience and offered that their homeschooling approach wouldn’t work just staying at home because their child needed to experience being with others to understand how the world works. If they don’t understand how to deal with their anxieties about dealing with the real world, they will be stuck and in the house forever.

Another parent who has homeschooled for years offered that homeschooling has worked great for them. They have a private tutor come once/week & a Floortime trained occupational therapist come once/week and that having ‘the village’ is the key. That is, create a community of like-minded people to assist in our efforts.

I shared that many homeschoolers meet up regularly for field trips to the science centre, park, etc. in order to do group activities, but with the safety net of the community and caregivers there to guide them.

Another parent shared their homeschooling experience highlighting two areas: the education part and the Floortime part and integrating those two things in the Individualized Education Plan. Homeschooling worked when they learned HOW the child learns, they said. You learn that by being with your child, spending time together. It takes time to find out how they are learning and they were told that our kids love and want to socialize but they don’t know how. When you just put them with other kids they just don’t magically get it.
It’s about helping them and working on it daily with them. 

They tried co-ops and they didn’t work.
They joined special needs groups and regular groups and the child was lost. The OT, psychologist, and students all helped out. Finding other kids who have the same interest as their child and learning to socializing with them helped.

This parent is an immigrant so they faced racism which made the parent feel how their child feels about something they cannot change. They integrated socialization little-by-little by just waiting for the child to develop, not by pushing the child. Socializing is a developmental capacity too. Covid has opened the mind of many professionals to homeschooling and other ways of surviving and thriving.

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog and free Q & A! ‘See’ you again on Monday!

June 22, 2020

Thank you for everyone who came out today.

I started by showing a number of blogs and resources parents can look at which can all be found here on this website. I also mentioned the latest campaign by the Floortime Coalition of California and suggested anyone interested make a short video as described here.

A different parent from last time gave us positive feedback from their ICDL online consultation. I continued to urge all parents to take advantage of their current promotion for a free online consultation and they have discounted pricing for further consulting practices as well at this time.

A parent mentioned reading a book called Einstein Never Used Flashcards, finding it very helpful.

A parent mentioned that their child is still in ABA and they have explored Son Rise as they are exploring Floortime and deciding on services. They want to keep ABA to work on Academics. I talked about Dr. Gil Tippy’s Foundation Academics podcast (and mentioned one of the Dr. Glovinsky podcasts) about how until the early social-emotional capacities are mastered, it is very difficult to master any academics that aren’t memory-based. I talked about what memory-based looks like and gave an example of two real-life teens–one with ABA and one with Floortime and the difference in the Floortime teen’s ability to self-regulate and navigate new environments.

Another parent asked if you can work on academics while working on the early developmental capacities. I just said that I can only speak for my own experience and our son is not yet working on academics beyond beginning early literacy (reading and writing) so I can only say that yes, I’ve seen many families work on both together. I just stressed the importance of the early developmental capacities to instill the spirit of inquiry in our kids, as Dr. Tippy says.

Another asked about how you work on math with a pre-teen who struggles to stay at grade level in only this subject. I gave some examples of early mathematical concepts that a developmental approach uses using topics the child is interested in (e.g., counting train cars or wheels on model trains, giving friends some of your apples and how many do you have left) but didn’t know about older children persay.

A parent asked about DIR/Floortime schools in her area. I pointed out that at the Start Here menu on this page, above, you can scroll down the Schools category to see blogs and podcasts in which I featured DIR schools or school topics.

A parent asked about the IEP and we had a discussion of how you can stay an advocate for your child if your child doesn’t have access to a DIR school. The podcast I did about putting Floortime goals into an IEP discusses this to some extent.

We then got to the topic of remediation versus accommodation, a podcast I did with Maude Le Roux, and I described the types of remediation we have done with our son at A Total Approach in Pennsylvania each time we go for an intensive.

We have done Tomatis listening therapy with our son, which is part of Maude’s early stage intervention, and now we are working on timing and sequencing with Interactive Metronome program to target praxis skills as it relates to timing, sequencing, and execution, and the ReadLS program to target supporting developmental mechanisms for reading and writing skills.

I mentioned that due to the border closure, we cannot go to Maude’s clinic this summer so we are working on these programs at home and that we completed a cycle of Tomatis in March and will try Dr. Stephen Porges’ Safe and Sound Protocol next because I saw him speak at ICDL’s conference in March. I shared my notes and slides from that presentation at the Affect Autism twitter account if you scroll back to March 6th, 2020.

We also briefly mentioned my autism and medication podcast with Dr. Josh Feder.

Finally, a parent mentioned having had a couple of coaching sessions but still not being really sure how to proceed. I suggested a few steps they could take:

  • Follow the links under the Guide to Starting DIR/Floortime With Your Child, Adolescent, or Adult section under the Start Here link above to complete the developmental and sensory processing profile checklists in the first 2 blogs listed there.
  • Then if they get stuck, read the Stumbling blocks… series under the How to Overcome Obstacles in Floortime section which I adapted from the book Engaging Autism.
  • Use the User’s Guide to the DIR Model book as a tool to get started, with the disclaimer that we don’t want to make Floortime prescriptive. There are no ‘instructions’ for Floortime as you need to be in the moment, but this book breaks up all of the techniques we typically use in Floortime to get a beginner going. I did a podcast with the author about this book.
  • I also mentioned how essential it is to watch videos of ourselves and self-reflect as described in the following podcasts with Dr. Andrea Davis.

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog and free Q & A!

June 15, 2020

Thank you for everyone who came out on Monday.

A parent looked up Dr. Gordon Neufeld, whom I often mention and found that he has a developmentally friendly book list you can purchase for $10.00. 

Another parent gave us positive feedback from their ICDL online consultation. I continued to urge all parents to take advantage of their current promotion for a free online consultation.

A parent asked about Reggio Emilia, the preschool relationship-based approach from Italy. I mentioned that it is very in line with other developmental approaches like Floortime and the Waldorf schools, along with many homeschooling approaches that focus on the child’s interests and play.

A parent asked about DIR/Floortime schools in her area. I pointed out that at the Start Here menu on this page, above, you can scroll down the Schools category to see blogs and podcasts in which I featured DIR schools or school topics and mentioned some specific California resources: The DIR COC and The Greenhouse Therapy Center, along with Dr. Feder’s website.

Some discussion of ABA ensued and I reminded everyone that if it’s skills you want to teach your child, I would prefer the structured component of a DIR program over ABA. This is the component where you have a goal in mind as described in this blog post.

You could also listen to or read a couple of good podcasts I did about addressing challenges at home and at school

As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog and free Q & A!

 

June 8, 2020

Thank you for everyone who came out today. I hope you found it supportive & helpful!

I shared some links to check out. As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog and free Q & A!

We started off with some resources:

One parent mentioned being interested in a DIR school so I pointed everyone to the Start Here link on the blog and to scroll down to the Schools section to see the blogs/podcasts I did with such services.

Also at the Start Here link, I suggested the caregivers new to Floortime browse and try to watch the intro videos, then pick a podcast whose topic resonates with you.

Someone asked about The Floortime Center, referenced above (Jake Greenspan’s videos) so I mentioned going there with our son and the blog I wrote about it

There were questions about our kids being shy and hesitant when new people are around in familiar places such as going to the park, or socializing with relatives, etc. I mentioned that Dr. Gordon Neufeld (see his YouTube channel for videos) talks about attachment and how until our children are developmentally ready, it isn’t even appropriate to socialize with other children, without us–their main attachment figure–being there to facilitate interactions. I brought up that in DIR the “R” is for Relationship and how it is anxiety-provoking to be around those with whom we don’t have a Relationship with and feel safe with.

I talked about how we need to not expect anything from our children nor direct their behaviour. Instead, let’s empathize with them and say to them what we see they are experiencing such as “Oh, this is different today. There are new people here. It’s a bit scary.” and letting them experience their feelings and emotions without pressuring them to feel differently.

I shared how Dr. Neufeld will say to invite the inevitable by saying things like “We’re going to the park today, but it will be different because your cousins will be there. They might be swinging on the swings and want to play with you. This might feel a bit scary. You won’t like it and you might want to leave right away, but I’ll be with you to keep you safe. It’s ok to be scared. I can help you. We can leave whenever you want to.

I also suggested watching the podcast with Kristy Gose about doing Floortime in small groups and with siblings. I also talked about talking to the parties who will be visiting with you to suggest they give your child some space and then use a lot of affect to join their world and engage them. Also see last week’s notes for more tips on doing this.

And again we want to focus on Being vs. Doing, allowing our child to be themselves and feel their own feelings without telling them it will be ok.

Finally, we talked about how the child is dysregulated when things aren’t predictable so our first job is to co-regulate with them so they feel safe and secure again.

A parent asked if anyone knew about ASDreading.com. I am not familiar with it, but I know that Maude LeRoux‘s clinic near Philadelphia, A Total Approach has many tools for reading including ReadOn which they’ve used with our son. I also wrote a few blogs about a Developmental approach to Early Literacy (see parts 3, 2, and 1 linked in this part 4 blog).

June 1, 2020

* Sorry for the delay!

Thank you for everyone who came out today. Lots of new faces today! I hope you found it supportive & helpful!

I shared some links to check out. As always, take advantage of ICDL’s free consultations, free Thursday mini-seminars, Dr. Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor videos, and CEO Jeff’s blog!

Also see Alfie Kohn’s article for the compelling case against ABA.

One parent had a question about a child who will come to interact when the child wants something, but otherwise it’s hard to interact.

The key is to find something the child is interested in and join the child first. Once the child sees that you are interested in what they are doing, you can work on engagement and interaction. I gave examples of ‘playing clueless‘ when the child asks for something they want and how you can stretch this interaction out for many, many minutes in a playful way. Using lots of anticipation, affect and “Hmm…?” the child will realize they can come up with a thought and communicate that thought. See Dr. Tippy’s For on the Floor video series for more about this.

Another parent wondered how to interact with a 13-year-old, especially around worrying about the riots and upcoming surgery. After learning some more information, I suggested looking at the blog & podcast about affective reciprocal interactions since affect is really the key to get the flow of interactions going, which allows the child to co-regulate their emotional frustrations with us, then eventually self-regulate. Another podcast discusses how self-regulation begins.

Another new parent wonders where to start as they are brand new to Floortime. I suggested going to the Start Here link at this site for an introduction to Floortime and the DIR Model and to browse through the podcasts and blog posts. There you will find blogs such as the Quickstart Guide to Floortime, 5 Floortime Games to Play, and Being vs. Doing. Also we talked about appropriately challenging the child, playfully when the child is in a good mood and motivated to play with us.

May 25, 2020

Thank you for attending on this Memorial Day (USA). We had a great turnout and interestingly, it turned out to be more like a Q & A with questions coming in the chat box, and me going through them one-by-one. Before we knew it, the hour was up!

We started with the PLAY Project. I mentioned that I took advantage of their free Intro course in April and completed it last week. I found it very good and helpful, but it is for beginners. It’s aimed at age 0 to 6 and specifically at birth to 3, but certainly applies in general. It’s basically a nicely organized, packaged system for applying Floortime at home with parents mediating the application of the model. It is a start to understanding the basics of Floortime. A parent in the group has been doing PLAY Project and is very pleased with the results. Her child is 2 and a half yrs old.

I did a podcast about the PLAY Project with Dr. Rick Solomon and you can view or read about it here.

One parent asked a question that brought up the sensory experiences of our children. I reminded everyone to do the sensory processing profile for their child AND for themselves here if you scroll down to the Sensory Profile Checklist box. I talked about how Floortime and the PLAY Project use the family approach and how it’s important to understand how our profiles interact with one another.

A parent asked about getting their child to wear a mask during this quarantine. I shared that I feel it would be impossible to get my son to wear one but after a moment I realized that –like we discussed last week with the dentist and other things– we break it down and maybe it could be possible. We might start with a social story where we could even put photos of family members wearing masks into a booklet. One parent shared this link where you can create your own social stories. While we don’t want to rely on social stories to have our kids memorize their way through life, introducing them to the idea of something you want them to participate in is a good starting point.

Next you might get a comfy mask or three and have them play with them. Playfully try yours on and take it off if they protest. We want them to have a positive experience with them. Then, we might start wearing a mask around the house at a particular time each day for 10 minutes or so and just get them used to seeing us in a mask. Step-by-step, you can slowly get your child used to the idea and eventually into wearing one themselves.

A parent asked about sensory modulation activities. I shared that Dr. Greenspan talked about 3 components of Floortime: Floortime, semi-structured, and structured activities. If you scroll down to the STRUCTURED AND SEMI-STRUCTURED, SENSORIMOTOR, PROBLEM-SOLVING SESSIONS section, you can link to a radio show Dr. Greenspan did that covers the basics of Floortime, talking about sensory/motor play and games. The semi-structured component can include gross motor modulation activities where you can kick a ball back-and-forth or play red-light/green light. Getting child to slow down, stop, then go fast, etc. in a playful way can help children regulate themselves.

The parent asked what about modulation activities for fine motor skills? I pointed out that gross motor development always precedes fine motor and pointed you guys to the Early Literacy series that I did where the developmental literacy expert suggested a more gross motor start to writing, for instance, before moving to pencil/pen use.

A parent asked about the DIR 101 course and I explained that it is a broad introduction to what the DIR Model and Floortime are about. You can get a $25 discount for the course on this page (scroll down to ICDL section). The parent also asked about Floortime books so I pointed the group to my book list here.

A parent asked about how to help their older neurotypical adolescent help do Floortime with their autistic adolescent. I reminded the group about the podcast about doing Floortime in small groups and with siblings. We did a second podcast as well about promoting symbolic thinking in small group settings.

In terms of a good intro to watch about Floortime, I suggested the Intro section at my Start Here link.

As I encouraged everyone to take advantage of the free consultation sessions being offered by ICDL, I suggested looking at my podcasts on self-reflection with Dr. Andrea Davis which provided great insight for me in my learning process. We did many follow-ups if you search “Andrea Davis” on this website.

We talked about the Book Thinking Goes to School and the book about visual spatial information by the same co-author. I pointed out that in last week’s ICDL mini-seminar the O.T. at the Rebecca School mentioned they created a book applying Thinking Goes to School for each developmental capacity and I will be doing a podcast about this in the future. ICDL might even offer a seminar about it.

A parent inquired about how to be playfully obstructive and I referred the group to my podcast with Dr. Tippy about having your foot on the gas and brake at the same time. We can slow down and stretch out all interactions while children are making requests/demands to us. Dr. Tippy’s For on the Floor series is also great for tips. The radio show link above to Dr. Greenspan’s old show also covers this topic (about 30 minutes in).

A parent asked if anyone had heard of Autism Navigator, a sight that helps you recognize the early signs of autism.

As always, I encouraged everyone to take advantage of the FREE resources being offered by ICDL on their home page under Resources for Parents, including the free mini-seminars on Thursdays, the free consultations, and Dr. Tippy’s For on the Floor videos.

May 18, 2020

Thank you for all of you who attended. It was great to see everyone and share each others triumphs of the past week!

One parent, following up from last week’s suggestions, tried the deep breathing with their teen. The parent modelled deep breathing before thinking about or acting on anything they were going to do (which usually provokes the child’s anxiety). Breathing together was very co-regulating for the child. The same parent went outside their own comfort zone with the teenager by going outside and weeding. It was very regulating for both of them to just “be” together.

View my podcast/blog Being vs. Doing here.

A few parents shared some stories of their children’s birthdays over the computer. One parent compared how being at parties was difficult for their child when all the children would clap and what happened over the computer instead. It was a bit loud and overwhelming, but the child got used to it and seemed to enjoy the party experience.

Another parent shared how their son began requesting family Zooms even though he would pay attention for maybe 20 seconds before running away, but he enjoyed that the meeting was still going on (even though he wasn’t paying full attention anymore).

We talked about the sensory experiences of our children in these situations.

A father in the group, new to Floortime, was curious about how to use affect with his child. I reminded everyone to do the sensory processing profile for their child AND for themselves here if you scroll down to the Sensory Profile Checklist box.

Next, knowing the sensory profiles, make sure you are in an environment that supports BOTH of your individual profiles. Next, watch, wait and wonder what your child is paying attention to/interested in and join them. Once you see, put yourselves in their shoes and imagine what they are experiencing and comment on it with interest.

We then gave a bunch of examples to each other about being silly together! Playful nonsense is where it’s at to get that ‘gleam in the eye’ to connect with your child. This will promote interaction between you both. One parent said their child loves funny-sounding words. My child loves funny-sounding noises.

The father said his child likes to ride a bike so I suggested being playful by saying things like, “Hey! You’re going too fast! Whoa slow down!” or “Whew! I’m out of breath!” (panting) “Please slow down!” (in a silly, playful authentic voice) or running beside the child then shouting playfully, “STOP!” with a playful ‘stop’ gesture, then playfully saying “Goooooooooo!” to go again, or being in front of the child who rides to you then not moving and looking very frightened that they’re about to crash into you and saying “Ahhhhhhhhhhhh! Please stop!” then jumping out of the way at the last minute laughing together, etc.

Another parent shared they changed the lyrics to a famous song to something the child liked and this gave the father another idea because his child likes music.

We shared our experiences with online therapy, school, or other appointments/meetings. A parent shared this resource about facilitating these sessions.

Some parents said their children thrive from having the structure and predictability of the online session, but one parent said their child gets bored with the same routine and refuses to participate. What to do?

First, in order for our kids to be able to participate in something new, it sometimes takes many tries. I shared that I see many parents trying something once, saying it didn’t work, and then giving up saying it didn’t work. But you might have to start more slowly. I shared our experience of starting the dentist. First we just went to the building and looked around. Next time, we went into the room and got to ride up and down on the dentist chair and squirt the water. Next, our son got to hold a couple of the tools and watch the staff put on gloves and their masks (before Covid!) and finally by the time we started any dental work, he was used to being there. And even then the dentist didn’t get the opportunity to do much, but each time was a bit better.

We discussed doing something new/different each time to peak their interest with the teletherapy. I shared a related example about how our son would be so interested in PJ Masks books, but after we bought a bunch and read them two or three times, he refused. I had his Dad sit on the bed reading them and then he protested that those were HIS books. I said that no, Dada wanted to read them. THEN he wanted to read them again. So by playfully doing something a bit different you can entice the child into an activity you know they enjoy.

Another parent gave a great example of talking over Facetime with a grandparent and the child not showing much interest or saying anything. So the grandparent said hi to everyone except that child and just smiled instead. Eventually the child initiated saying hi to the grandparent!

We talked about making sure it’s interesting for the child. I gave the example of our son loving hangman, but he chooses the topic, which tends to be PJ Masks, Paw Patrol (TV shows), or Sonic or Rocket League (video games). Then he is motivated to guess the word. At first we would have to have the entire word completed before he would read it, but after a few weeks, he is now starting to figure out the words with letters missing!

It takes time!

A parent asked if socializing begins with adults before with peers first. Yes, in child development and especially in the field of attachment, children form relationships and connections with their primary caregivers and only when they establish a good back-and-forth with their caregivers will they develop towards seeking out peers as well. I explained how this unfolded with my son over time and mentioned Dr. Gordon Neufeld discussing how the planets revolve around the sun and similarly, children need to revolve around a primary alpha figure, the adult. If they try to revolve around each other we see problems because they don’t have that stable attachment and peers cannot provide that to them, and are less predictable.

You can see the podcast I did with DIR Expert Training Leader Kristy Gose about doing Floortime with siblings and peers here.

Someone asked about the Soundsory program. I explained that there is evidence for listening therapies over many other newer therapies out there, my neurologist told us, and that we have been doing Tomatis with our son for about six years through A Total Approach near Philadelphia. We have been going for 2-week intensives there for six years. Maude Le Roux explains the process of helping the children she works with in this podcast, using my son as an example.

As always, I encouraged everyone to take advantage of the FREE resources being offered for a couple more weeks by ICDL on their home page under Resources for Parents.

May 11, 2020

Hi caregivers!

 
It was nice to see you all today and welcome to the caregivers who came for the first time today!
 
 
Today we talked about how to maintain our own self-regulation when we get triggered and lose our patience! We know our child’s regulation is affected by ours.
 
 
  • I suggested that the adults in the family can take turns with the child, especially if one parent is less triggered than the other
  • A parent suggested deep breaths and breathing to help our physiology to calm itself down. This works for us, but also for our kids, as well as counting down 5..4..3..2..1.. Our son benefits greatly from taking DEEP breaths when distressed, focusing on blowing out the breath slowly and from me counting down slowly and with affect in my voice and on my happy face
  • Another parent suggested finding a regulating activity for yourself and your child to do parallel to each other helps. This parent likes to pull weeds while the child loves water so gets to play with the hose with the water on. They are both finding the activities they are doing independently, regulating, but beside each other.
 
Here are some resources:
 
 
Go to the Start Here link above and search all the topics that you are interested in. Here’s specifically some related to what we discussed today:
 
 
Family issues:
 
 
 
Regulation:
 
 
Sensory profile and giving our children the sensory lifestyle they require to stay regulated:
 
Sensory profile checklist is in this blog to do on yourself and your child:
 
 
ABA considerations:
 
Dr. Tippy’s For on the Floor series:
 
Dr. Tippy’s ABA Detox videos at the very bottom of his link:
 
The DIR model does incorporate structure as well:
 
 
My last point about asking yourself if you would treat your friend, spouse or neurotypical child that way?
 
 
The importance of PLAY:
 
 
One of the parents found the interview about my experiences to be helpful:
 
 
How to work with adolescents/young adults:

May 4, 2020

Hi everyone!

 
It was great to again see many new faces along with some of our regulars in the drop-in session.
 
Since there were a lot of new folks who wondered how to start, and one person expressed how much the sensory diet/lifestyle info was so helpful, I’m sending a lot of the same links some of you have seen a few times now.
 
 
Start looking at this page and browsing topics that jump out at you. Look at all the green links under the Introduction to DIR/Floortime section.
 
The next section Beginner’s Guide to DIR/Floortime really gives you more of an understanding of what we do. And I referenced a few of these links in our session. Specifically, I mentioned why academics should wait until we work on the early social capacities (the Foundation Academics link) and how we want to advocate for our child and have everything we do be related to our overarching DIR/Floortime approach (DIR/Floortime as a comprehensive developmental approach).
 
Also in that section, The Importance of Preverbal Affective Signalling is the one I recommended to a parent of a 13-yr-old who is more “Aspergers”. She covers NON SPEAKING clients AND clients who are developmentally further along, like an “Aspergers” type child. Another parent also suggested the Tilt parenting podcast which covers various ages and abilities.
 
 
If you are just getting started, you want to do two checklists with your kids in the next section called Guide to Starting DIR/Floortime With Your Child, Adolescent, or Adult
Notice the first 2 links are

Implement a DIR/Floortime program for your child: Step 1 is the sensory processing profile – see the Sensory Profile Checklist in the box on the right
Implement a DIR/Floortime program for your child: Where is your child developmentally? – see the FEDC basic chart in the green box

 

In each of those posts, you will see a link the checklists to assess your child’s profiles.

 
Here is another video about sensory processing that ICDL shows:
 
A parent shared with us The Sensory Project, which is not DIR/Floortime but good for sensory information: https://thesensoryproject.com/
 
In another podcast this SLP discusses how parents have to advocate for their desired approach and need to take the lead:
 
Once you go through the Guide to starting DIR/Floortime section links you can start to get a good feel for Floortime.
 
I mentioned that writing these blogs, directly from material in Engaging Autism, I learned a lot about how to move my child up the developmental ladder, which can be a slow process–years in my case:
 
Under the How to Overcome Obstacles in Floortime
Someone brought up eating issues. I’ve shared this podcast before which is a great podcast about how to approach difficulties with your child’s eating habits:
 
Someone asked if we can make gains with older children. YES! This podcast outlined how progress was made with a man in his 40s who was non speaking AND the importance for ALL of our kids of PREVERBAL SIGNALLING – that is, how we communicate BEFORE we can speak, and if we will never speak:
If you want to hear my experience, one of the DIR experts interviewed ME recently with all of my lessons learned:
 
Are you noticing that a lot of the people in these podcasts are all saying the SAME THING in a slightly different way, depending on their lens from their profession? That is the DIR Model.
 
Thank you all for doing the best for your child! Remember, it’s ok that we’re not perfect. We do a little bit at a time, always remembering to RESPECT our child WHERE THEY ARE AT and not putting too much expectation on them that they cannot live up to. They will develop at their own pace best with our love, guidance and support.
 
“See” you next Monday!

April 27, 2020

Hi caregivers,

 
It was nice to see many new faces today!
 
Our first question was about what to do when our child has a meltdown or tantrum? What about discipline? My child is impulsive which explains some of the hitting little brother.
 
The parent referenced the co-regulation blog on my site:
 
Please see this podcast on impulsivity in our children with OT Maude Le Roux
 
A therapist in the group said she always asks parents to consider two things:
  • What co-regulates my child
  • What dysregulates my child
Once you know this, this helps you. It’s a stress response. Please see my podcasts on Regulation:
 

Dr. Shanker
Meltdown – red zone, no reaching them
Tantrum – still a bit of room

Here is a podcast/blog I did with DIR expert training leader and retired special educator, Jackie Bartell that discusses the boundaries around food we talked about:

and another about behavioural challenges at home:
 
Here is the FOODTIME podcast with Jake Greenspan talking about giving the child more choices so they feel more in control:
 
It’s always about the Relationship, the “R”
 
The “I” (Individual differences)

Find out your child’s sensory processing profile!
https://affectautism.com/2015/10/30/sensory-processing-profile/ scroll down to sensory profile checklist box and click the GET HERE button

The “D” (Development)
Find out where your child is developmentally using the ICDL checklist:
https://affectautism.com/2015/11/05/implement-floortime/ scroll down to the green basic chart box and CLICK HERE to see the checklist
For a review of the early developmental capacities: https://affectautism.com/2015/09/24/the-d-in-the-dir-model-development/
 
Another parent asked about developmental regressions as her child is teething and showing some regression:
One parent asked about DIR goals in a school IEP:
https://affectautism.com/2019/10/28/iep/
As always, if you have any questions, suggestions or comments, feel free to email me.
 
“See” you next Monday: same time, same place!

April 20, 2020

Hi caregivers,

 
Nice to see you all today.
 
One parent thanked us for going over how our children can benefit from sensory diet type activities every hour or so and another asked for the sensory processing profile checklist:

https://affectautism.com/2015/10/30/sensory-processing-profile/ if you scroll down you will see Sensory Profile Checklist box and click on that.

We went over all the free resources available out there again, which I’ve added here again:

 
http://icdl.com scroll down to parent resources
– one of our parents gave rave reviews about their experience using the Free consulting and Q&A and encouraged others to take advantage of these offers! I took the class, week 1, of the 3 hr $40 course and it’s great! Even if you pay now for weeks 2 and 3, you will see week 1 material and is well worth it
 
playproject.org free intro course if you enter PROMO code SPRING20
 
Floortime center videos
Blogs:
I mentioned some great blogs to follow about Floortime and they are listed on my site here:
 
Gil Tippy concrete vs. abstract concept
We also talked about Dr. Gil Tippy’s point about our children working from their memories (concrete thinking) to moving into the abstract world
 
and about how we need to promote higher thinking in our children:

https://affectautism.com/2016/07/19/developmental-ladder/

I also mentioned this fantastic program for adolescents and young adults. MAY I PLEASE SUGGEST THAT EVERYONE should read this, as he really highlights the GOALS we have for our children’s growth and development. It contains tips that we can all apply starting NOW.

Someone asked about resources for single parents? Another parent recalled hearing a podcast about it and I found the link:
https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/autism-blueprint/abp-episode-49-autism-pVWucdHRwS-/
We also talked about how it’s hard putting all the information we learn into practice so I suggested checking out the Floortime video reviews I’ve done with psychologist Dr. Andrea Davis:
https://affectautism.com/2016/02/02/podcast-with-dr-andrea-davis-about-her-users-guide-to-the-dir-model/
 
And a few more Floortime examples from my site:
 
“See” you all next Monday, same time, same place!

April 13, 2020

Hi caregivers,

 
It was great to see a lot of new faces today. We had a longer session today as well with the increased number of participants.
 
Since so many of you attending were there for the first time, I wanted to share a few general resources for you:
 
My website http://affectautism.com/start lists many videos and podcasts you can view sorted by topic. I suggest using this page to answer all of your questions until you’ve watched them all! haha.
 
CHANCE OF THE YEAR! FREE Floortime consulting from DIR Expert training leaders! Unheard of! From http://icdl.com home page, scroll down to parent resources during Covid-19:
Free Floortime Consultations for Parents

ICDL is offering up to 2 free virtual (live online) Floortime consultations for parents now through April 30, 2020 (space is limited). This is for parents that are either totally new to Floortime and want to begin to explore it or those that are early in exploring Floortime. Click here to schedule an appointment.

 

50% Off Floortime Coaching

ICDL offers virtual Floortime consultation and coaching through our therapy center currently. ICDL has mastered the use of online learning and supports and we are extending this service to families at 50% off the usual price now through May 31, 2020. To learn more and schedule an appointment please email livingston@icdl.com.

 
Only $40: 3 1-Hour sessions: Floortime “Crash Course” for Parents

This is a short “crash” course on implementing Floortime strategies at home during this time of social isolation and limited access to therapy services. This course is open to all parents, but this course is primarily targeted for parents whose children are receiving Floortime therapy services from a school or therapy center and now the parents are attempting to implement more at home on their own. Course will take place live online Thursdays 1:00-2:00PM US Eastern Time starting April 16, 2020. Read more and register by clicking here.

 

For on the Floor Video Series

Dr. Gil Tippy, a DIRFloortime Expert, is creating a series of short 4-minute videos on fun Floortime activities. Click here to watch these helpful short videos.

 
Tips for Supporting Your Child’s Emotional Health in a Time of Stress

Check out Jeff Guenzel’s blog posts. There are some good tips on supporting emotional health in this time of crisis.

 

Free Weekly Q&A Sessions

Jeffrey Guenzel, ICDL’s CEO, along with Floortime experts will host weekly one-hour live online sessions to simply answer any questions a parent has about ICDL, child development, Floortime, parenting, coping with the COVID-19 health crisis, or any related topic. Click here to sign up.

 
*** I highly, highly, highly recommend you take advantage of all of these offerings above!!!
 
Today we had a number of parents say that they were in ABA or other type of interventions that they were not happy with. One parent said since our isolation due to the coronavirus, she noticed how much her son was dependent now on prompts to do anything. On this topic there are a number of links, which one of the practitioners in our group said she would like to share with her clients who come in hearing that they should be getting ABA or expect her to be very strict and demanding with their child. Here are some links about why the Developmental Approach is more desirable, as well as why to choose it over ABA:
 
Gil Tippy’s For on the Floor series above!
Gil Tippy’s ABA Detox videos: https://affectautism.com/why-dirfloortime/ at the bottom of the page. There are 5 parts you can scroll through.
https://affectautism.com/2016/04/26/comprehensive/ (and see the link at the end of the blog post to Dr. Greenspan’s radio show is broken: use this https://www.icdl.com/parents/webradio/2009 Note he has a whole series on ABA and Dev’tal approaches)
My other website http://autismdata.org/
 
Someone also brought up Barry Prizant’s Uniquely Human. Here is the podcast we did:
 
Many parents said WHAT DO I DO? How do I start? How do I schedule my day? How much Floortime? How often? When? etc.
https://affectautism.com/2016/05/10/ideal-dirfloortime/ This blog includes the components of Floortime (structured, unstructured, Floortime, etc.)
 
You can do Floortime with these tips, including the For on the Floor videos from Dr. Tippy, above:
 
 
A few parents asked about boundaries and setting limits with their children:
 
Someone also brought up ASAN, adult autistic’s view and advocacy:
 
We also talked a lot about sensory issues that our children struggle with:
https://affectautism.com/2018/03/12/sensory-lifestyle/  We talked about providing children who “can’t feel their bodies” with deep pressure, as she discusses in this podcast
We talked about the STAR Institute in Denver: https://www.spdstar.org/
Also I mentioned this is a GREAT O.T. resource, although not “Floortime” https://theinspiredtreehouse.com/ and you can subscribe to their e-newsletter
Here are some of their blogs related to what we discussed today:
https://theinspiredtreehouse.com/alerting-sensory-input-for-kids/ (Note “alerting” activities for kids versus “calming”)
 
I also thought I had a brushing protocol, but I do not. I was thinking of something else. I found these links though:
 
And another resource about behavioural challenges at home:
 
That is a LOT! Hope it’s all helpful!
 
Until next Monday…

April 6, 2020

Hi caregivers,

 
Thank you to those who joined us today. It was a great turnout!
 
One of our parents brought up that it’s been more stressful this week and that when we are more stressed, it affects our kids. I did a couple of podcasts on this topic that you might find helpful:
 
Another parent has a child who loves making scrambled eggs every morning. But they don’t want to eat scrambled eggs every single morning and want to avoid the rigidity of a memorized, fast, rote activity that their child is insisting on doing every single morning. The child really likes the sensory input of stirring the consistency of the eggs.
 
We had a number of suggestions from participants:
  • Make a simple schedule up on the wall that the child can follow that shows which days are scrambled eggs days. Have the child help create the schedule and add other desired activities on other days (such as peeling potatoes, as mentioned by the parent) as outlined by Jake Greenspan in the Foodtime podcast I did: https://affectautism.com/2019/07/08/foodtime/
  • Set some rules: Limit # of eggs, or crack eggs ONLY when they’re decorated first, etc.
  • SLOW IT DOWN by using playful obstacles such as putting the eggs up high, hiding the oil, etc. so he can’t find the ingredients and then do Floortime to find the ingredients together, allowing him the time to initiate a response to you
  • Find some other sensory activities that provide the same experience such as mixing water and flour
Another parent wondered how to expand play with the child who only is interested in books, not toys, and only likes to flip the pages without absorbing all the content, even though the child seems to be understanding the story and can answer questions about the story
 
Again, we had a number of suggestions from participants, including our O.T.s who were in the session:
  • Play easy game of lights on / lights off; throw blanket on and off (contrast of dark/light), play bears in a cave, etc. to get to the child’s visual stimulation craving
  • Act out the story, have the characters (stuffed animals) take a turn reading the story such as enacting the story in the house – pages on the wall, walking through the squishy squish, etc. Replay the elements of the story in the house. First do exactly what the book says and then change one thing each time. Instead of fox footprints, do frog footprints, etc. and/or using other costumes or visuals when acting out stories
  • One parent found a “Moonlight attachment” for the phone to use for story time  (https://mymoonlite.com/where you turn the lights off in room then play out the story: spot where the light is, etc. and this parent also used a therapeutic brush on the child’s body, giving the child a sense of awareness on their body before story time with the lights so they’re more calm and into the story (i.e., getting regulated for the stories by providing sensory input)
  • Maude Le Roux, O.T. says if nothing else you can always give your child a deep pressure massage when they wake up and before they go to sleep to help regulation
  • Playful obstruction: When he’s rushing to turn pages, hold the page down saying “Oh my hand’s stuck, I can’t turn the page!” or pretend you’re falling asleep and put your head on the book so the child has to say or do something to express, “I want to turn the page” and/or turn the book upside down and say “Hmm…”
  • Take the story from 2-D to 3-D by using an actual toy to enact the book
  • Use books that have something to touch, open the windows (sensory books)
  • Are you WAITING for your child’s initiation and response? Make sure you’re always giving the child a chance to respond and interact with you rather than being an entertainer to your child
  • Sign up for FREE ICDL coaching (see link below)
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  • See the podcast I did with Dr. Joshua Feder about repetition in autism for some useful techniques:  https://affectautism.com/2017/12/04/repetition-in-autism-therapy/
  • See the Early Literacy blogs I did about using books that have minimal and large text with pictures and using a page to cover the text you aren’t reading so the child can follow the line they are reading, etc.:
  • https://affectautism.com/2018/01/29/early-literacy/
  • https://affectautism.com/2018/02/26/early-literacy-part-2/
  • https://affectautism.com/2018/05/28/early-literacy-the-developmental-way-part-3/
  • https://affectautism.com/2018/11/19/early-literacy-4/
Just another reminder to take advantage of all the free resources online, including the free Floortime consultations and Q & A sessions offered by ICDL here: https://www.icdl.com/ Scroll down to Resources for Parents
 
As always, feel free to email me with any questions, concerns, or suggestions.
 
Until next Monday…