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It can be a real challenge for some of our children to understand concepts of time. This is a skill acquired as part of a higher functional emotional developmental capacity (the sixth capacity) in the Developmental, Individual differences, Relationship-based (DIR) model of Dr. Stanley Greenspan. This week I share some tips I received on this topic from DIR Expert Training Leader and Special Educator, Jackie Bartell, on a recent visit at a play museum.
The Concept of Time
As Jackie watched us play with our son at the museum, she could see where he struggled. He was having the time of his life at this fun ball contraption and we hadn’t seen any other parts of the museum yet. We were telling him that we would look around and come right back to the ball machine. He only wanted to stay right where he was because it was so much fun. He doesn’t yet truly grasp the concept of time or what “we’ll come right back” actually means.
It might be strange to us to think our children don’t have a concept of time when they are in school everyday and follow a routine, but you’d be surprised. I know I was! You may have heard me tell this story before. We sometimes drive Dada to the train on the way to school. One day after school a couple years ago, we had to pick him up at that same stop which is a different stop than usual. We had come home from school, eaten dinner, and then headed to pick him up there.
It was already dark outside. As we were driving there, which is the same route that we had taken to school that morning when we dropped him off at the same stop, our son started crying, “No school! No school!“. I explained to him that no, we were picking up Dada and going right back home. It took a bit of co-regulating to calm him down and ease his anxiety!
It hit me like a ton of bricks! I could not believe that he would think we were going to school in the evening when he already had school all day. We always talked about events happening in 3 more weeks, 2 more weeks, 7 more days, 5 more days, 2 more days and he seemed to understand. We also had been using “first… then…” to help him get through transitions with success. So this was a big shock to me.
Providing a Visual Representation
Jackie suggested that I provide our son with a visual representation rather than just verbal language to explain that we’ll return to the ball machine after seeing the rest of the museum–in particular, the pretend sand we played with last time we visited the museum. By now, he was familiar with her, so she bent down to his level and held out two fists. She said, “ball machine” emphasizing one fist, then “pretend sand” emphasizing her other fist. She said, “We’ll go find the pretend sand (holding up the respective fist), then we’ll come back to the ball machine (holding up the first fist).”
When our son was first diagnosed we heard a lot about visual schedules and boards with mini velcro picture cards that we could move easily to help him choose an activity or understand what was happening next. Personally, I never found them to be so helpful for our son. I know they used them at pre-school and even later at school, but it always seemed to me that looking at a picture wasn’t the same as understanding what would happen. It was just something he would go along with or memorize.
Now that our son is developmentally further along, showing him a fist is something he can see and understand to represent something else. His symbolic thinking is emerging. Pairing the idea of a visual in front of him with the verbal language was an extra prompt to help his comprehension. And here at the museum, I could see that our son really looked at Jackie’s fists and seemed to comprehend what she was saying better than when I only said it verbally, when it provoked his anxiety. With the visual prompt, he didn’t have to wonder as much, which provoked the anxiety, when he would see the ball machine again. It was there in front of him.
Jackie said she thinks of it like a calendar that we all have that we rely on to support us through the day. She says our kids also should be allowed to have some tools like this, especially when their worlds often can feel so out of control, and when we want kids to make transitions that are part of daily life when it may not be the ideal time to work on the concepts.
She also suggested the use of a timer, like that shown here, to visually show him that in 5 minutes, for example, we will move to the next part of the museum. The timer with the red is easiest to understand because it’s so visually obvious as it moves around. Again, this is meant to be used as a simple tool to aid with transitions under pressure–not as a replacement for working on higher concepts in Floortime.
Visual prompts and cues are helpful in the moment, especially when kids are in distress and having a hard time, but it should not be your first immediate “go-to”. The goal is not just to get a kid through an activity or situation, but for the child to understand it. Whenever possible, we want to work through the situation slowly with the child, even in hard moments.
Not a Replacement for Floortime
The work on the concept and the abstract parts of understanding “time” will come when we work on those higher level capacities of abstract thinking and building bridges. Making daily transitions are stressful for our children, and with that comes decreased engagement and capacity to think symbolically. So the visual representations can be quite helpful. However, we need to beware not to rely on them alone.
Until next week… here’s to affecting autism!